Today I want to talk about a topic that is brought up a great deal right now. I want to create my own spin on it. I think that it might be a calmer way to think about it than people might be used to. Because you know, Mrs. Tea is trying to be the wannabe positivity expert.
So, anyway, I think that I want to talk about being proud of yourself. I'm fascinated by how people are worried that being proud of themselves. A lot of people think that it is going to lead to them being full of themselves. Well, my thought is being a little bit proud of yourself when you do something that you are excited about, or even a lot proud of yourself when you do something astounding can turn out to be rather wonderful. I also want you to share your happiness and pride with yourself. I know you are thinking, “What are you talking about, Mrs. Tea?” I'm thinking, maybe just saying, “Hey, self. That was grand. You did well. Congratulations.” Just like someone would do for you. You like it when they say it for you. Why not say it to yourself?
I am saying all of this because there are situations in which you might not be near someone you love that whom you can share your good news. Maybe it's in the middle of the night. Why wouldn’t you want someone just to say something nice to you? I know I would. So, when you did a good job. Why don't you say, “Hey self? You did awesomely. I thank you for trying as hard as you did. That helped me out. You did great. I'm proud of you.”
Now when I'm saying this, I want you to hear my voice in a calm, easy tone. I know you are like, “Mrs. Tea, I can't hear you. This is written language. And you are never telling me anything. So, how can I hear you?” I know you can't hear me. I am perfectly aware of that. But imagine it being quiet, calm, nice, and at ease. Something that makes you slow down and think more calmly. Even become happier. It is a voice that creates the sense that you love yourself and care for yourself by imagining someone who cares. Think of a motherly figure dressed in a warm sweater giving you a hug and a warm beverage to soothe your soul.
So, when I say I'm proud of you, next time, take it and say, “Well, Mrs. Tea would say she is proud of me, so maybe I should tell myself I'm proud of myself.
Oh and take a picture of yourself the next time you tell yourself how nice a job you did like I would. Right when you are imagining that you are getting that hug and cup of hot cocoa from me and see what your face looks like. Then the next time when you are just thinking about it as yourself see if it is the same face. I bet you it is.
Try it on for size as they say.
Now go. Be safe. Know that you are not alone.